“When one has much to put into them, a day has a hundred pockets” – Nietzche
Here’s a life pro-tip that will help you in business and relationships: if someone tells you that they are too busy, they mean they are too busy for you.
You – or what you are about – has not demonstrated enough value for them to give you the time. There is no such thing as too busy… there are only priorities.
If someone is too busy for you then, you are lowest – or non-existent – on their list of priorities.
Now, sometimes you catch someone at a bad time and they really are too busy at that very moment. But if they don’t offer you an alternative, or otherwise express a sincere desire to re-connect… then you have NO PRIORITY with them.
This is great feedback for you to receive from others, as it will teach you how to show and add value in order to gain priority.
But the worst thing you can do is turn this whole too busy routine back on yourself.
Too busy to go to the gym.
Too busy to build a business.
Too busy to practice guitar.
Too busy to write a blog.
Replace ‘busy’ with ‘lazy’ and you are closer to the truth.
Managing your life is all about managing your priorities.
If something is important enough to you, then there is no such thing as too busy.
If you cut yourself to the bone while chopping vegetables, are you too busy to go to the hospital? If you are drowning, are you too busy to fight for air?
No.. because suddenly an emergency has taken precedence above anything else you had going on.
Deadline for work? Hot girl coming over? Bidding on Ebay for an abominable snowman costume?
Sorry bro – your entire awareness is consumed with mortal pain. Nothing else exists and nothing else matters.
So often it takes a man being in an excruciating circumstance before he commits to making a drastic change in his life. Then too busy is no longer an excuse.
If you are suffering in pure hell of a hostile domestic situation, a soul-crushing job or zero success with women… you are not too busy to make critical changes in your life.
Just the same, if the ever present awareness of your own laziness and mediocrity (i.e. not-actualizing your potential) becomes agonizing enough – you’ll stop making excuses and get to work.
The worst circumstance that you can find yourself in is that you are just comfortable enough to keep slogging through a mediocre life.
I think it is the case, as with many men, that you’ve really got to be miserable with mediocrity before you commit to revolutionary self-improvement. Rock bottom is almost a right of passage.
And if you aren’t totally miserable, but just coasting in a state of dull pain and comfortable dissatisfaction, then you’ve got to convince yourself that a life of mainstream mediocrity is an emergency. That, one day you’ll regret your laziness and everything you’ve missed out on.
Then, the only too busy you will entertain for yourself is that you are too busy to waste time on things that don’t advance you towards your ultimate goal.
Be too busy for video games and television.
Be too busy for hanging out at the bar and watching football.
Be too busy for dating a bunch of lame women on Tinder.
Be too busy for socializing with people who don’t share your ambition.
Don’t ever be too busy for taking the critical steps necessary to make your dreams come true.
You’ll never find the time to do the important things you’ve been putting off and procrastinating on.
YOU’VE GOT TO MAKE THE TIME.
That means getting up an hour earlier or staying up an hour later.
That means resisting the urge to get drunk on Friday night, so that you can make Saturday productive.
That means cutting out other activities that are not majorly effective in getting you to where you want to be.
Just don’t ever say that you are too busy. You aren’t too busy. Your priorities are just out of whack.
The rest is up to you…