“I am an old man and have known many troubles, but most of them never happened.” – Mark Twain
If you are a man who is constantly depressed, it is no doubt because you subscribe to one or more of the following:
- You aren’t having regular sex with pretty girl(s).
- You are in a bad financial or job situation.
- You have no creative outlet and/or adventure in your life.
- You have no regular exposure to nature and sunshine.
- You are in a bad state of fitness and/or have a bad diet.
- You have no real mission or purpose in life.
- You are hung up on some miserable shit that happened in your past.
- You are a drug addict (television, porn and alcohol count).
No shit you are depressed. You’ve got a lot of problems.
Time to snap the fuck out of it and fix what is broken.
If you are lazy though, you’ll let the psych-doctor convince you of a chemical disorder, so that you can avoid the hard work of self-improvement and instead get high on pills.
I know, I know… it’s a real disease for veterans, victims of abuse and one out of one-hundred other people in treatment.
But you ain’t one of them.
I went through it in my late teens and early twenties. No identity, no direction and a weak sex life. My ambition was crushed and I was self medicating with pot, cocaine, MDMA and alcohol.
Those were dark times, but I got over it and found my way out of the woods.
I had to figure it out on my own. Who else but myself could’ve helped me?
Who else but your own self can help you?
Parents, doctors and counselors can’t teach you how to navigate the sexual market-place to get a date, become socially independent or find your mission in life.
Friends may show empathy and give you a crutch, but they can’t resolve your existential troubles.
To get by while we figure it out on our own, we numb ourselves with medications… prescribed or otherwise.
But the pharmaceuticals run you into the same wall as the party drugs: They make you OK with the dissatisfaction in your life.
They break your motivation and rob you of the will-power needed to make a drastic change.
Now… I can’t say that the effects of psycho-actives are all bad, because lifting the clouds for a short time can really snap you out of a bad frame of mind.
Psychedelics like peyote have sometimes accomplished this to such an extent as to completely cure junkies from their addiction after only a single session.
But if you are self-medicating or doc-medicating, you’ve got to acknowledge that you are playing with fire. The flames keep getting higher as you daily brace for the morning crash and residual relapse, re-enforcing your dependency.
Eventually the drugs will turn you into ashes.
The catalyst for all revolution is a dissatisfaction with the way things are.
If you artificially induce satisfaction using drugs, then where is the drive to make things better?
You’ve got to own the depression before you can fix it.
Your dissatisfaction should feel like a splinter in your brain… one that you pry out, bit by bit, with persistent effort over the course of many months.
Taking medication is a surrender: “Oh well, I am depressed… nothing I can do about it… I am totally powerless. Might as well make my depression more comfortable.”
That attitude is how losers get made.
Not to mention that neutralizing your emotional lows also compromise the positive emotions associated with the emotional highs. No one likes a flat-line space cadet with no color in their emotion and no dimension in their character.
Patterns Of Thought
To understand how to beat-down episodes of depression without drugs, you’ve got to understand how depression works.
Your mood is a product of your thinking, and your thinking is a product of your mood.
Patterns of positive thinking get you motivated and energized.
Patterns of negative thinking put you on a downward spiral.
Something small triggers your depression and you become fixated on it. You cycle the same thoughts over and over again in your head, working out every possible ‘what if’ and ‘if only’ scenario ad infinitum.
In this way, you reach with your imagination and begin projecting future or past frames of mind onto your present mind-state.
These ‘frames’ exist only as representations on your mental cinema; they do not necessarily reflect an accurate account of past/future events or conditions.
Usually, the representations that you make for yourself are exaggerated, irrational or completely imagined.
But unconsciously you keep layering your thought-loops repeatedly on top of one another, ascribing greater emotional gravity to each false representation, driving yourself deeper into a hole of negative emotional debt.
Now… I don’t want to get too psychoanalytical here because we’ll both fall into a trap of words talking about meta-states and master-frames.
But the point is that, you are creating your own misery by entertaining these ‘what if’ and ‘if only’ scenario representations.
Reality is nowhere near as bad as you are representing it to yourself.
The emotional response that you are experiencing is most likely a product of your own imagination and not current, actual, real-time conditions.
Let’s take as a common example for illustration…
The #1 most common reason that young men are depressed today is sexual frustration.
Not getting laid with hot girl(s) is a nightmare when you are at peak testosterone and surrounded by them. And it is something that no one but perhaps an older brother can help out with.
So the patterns of thought begin:
- … even in high school, he couldn’t get a date for the prom (past)
- … that one time he had a chance with old-what’s-her-name and blew it (past)
- … all his friends think he is a loser because he doesn’t get sex (past)
- … girls have always treated him like the beta-nice guy with no penis (past)
- … even if he gets a girl, he’ll be a bad lover and she’ll run away (future)
- … he’ll be forever alone or end up a supplicant to some nagging heffer (future)
Over and over again, hammering himself into the ground with all these negative representations of past/future frames… all imagined, none existing in the current real-time.
Near everyone was insecure with their sexuality in high school. Old-whats-her-name didn’t give it up till college. His friends have their own problems to sweat about. The girls he wants are likely as confused, depressed and bad at sex as he is. The future hasn’t been written yet.
All he’s got to do is make himself more attractive, lead an interesting life, understand social politics and learn how to communicate in a flirtatious way. Bang… none of those other excuses exist.
Snapping Out Of It
I no longer get depressed because I’ve got the items on the above list pretty well handled.
But even happy guys get the blues sometimes.
Even the content get restless.
I call these ‘spells of depression’ because they come and go rather quickly and don’t relapse once you’ve squashed them. Sometimes all it takes is hitting the weights hard or taking a long run in a natural setting.
All you’ve got to do is break the cycle of thinking in which you are currently stuck.
This is done effectively by breaking up your daily routine and current physical environment.
Here is a 100% effective method snapping yourself out of a depressive spell without drugs:
- It’s the end of the day. Don’t eat dinner.
- Re-arrange your room or living space completely. Shift the furniture around, get rid of any clutter and clean it spotlessly.
- Get out of the house and go on a long walk around your city, deep into the night.
- Stay up all night long. Do not sleep.
- Do not watch television. Do not use the computer or phone. Do not eat or drink alcohol.
- If you must return home before sunrise, light some candles and meditate. Focus on the source of your gloom. Let the scenes play out in your head as they will.
- At dawn, take an ice-cold shower.
- Drink a big glass of orange juice.
- Hit the weights.
4 and 7 have a significant amount of clinical research behind them. On their own, they are a very effective means of treating episodes of depression.
8 is for the Vitamin C. The molecules in C are small enough to cross the blood-brain barrier and there is a significant amount of evidence supporting its use in aiding depression.
I suggest orange juice because supplemental C is shit in pill form. Crystalline sodium-ascorbate crystals are descent, but if you really want the primo supplement with maximum absorption, check out Lypo-Scheric C
9 is for the testosterone boost. Testosterone kills bad feelings and boosts self-esteem.
The rest is just a practical way of breaking up your mental cycle by changing your physical environment.
The rest is up to you…